Emotional insecurity and how you can overcome it and use it as a catalyst to grow and be more efficient in life. Learn how to turn your insecurity into something of benefit.
Have you ever felt like you are missing something? As if everyone else around you seems to know something you don't, but you can't put your finger on it.
Suppose you work as a salesman and your workmates, or competition in this case, seem to be one step ahead of you at everything. They get those new customers in quickly, and have them eating out of the palms of their hands within minutes. They sell, and your boss applauds them and gives them bonuses and the like.
You—well, you just sell averagely and barely receive commendation for your efforts. You can't help but wonder if you are the source of the problem—if you are doing something wrong.
It's not a good predicament to be in—when you think someone or something is out to get you, and then end up questioning your own sanity before going back to your initial standing of blaming others. There's only one way of breaking the cycle and getting to the root of the problem. It is by admitting to what's really happening.
We all are insecure to some degree, and the sooner you admit it the better. Insecurity is a common human trait and is not to be despised. It can be a very powerful tool to elevate you to the next level in whatever aspect it's concerned with.
For example, if it is in the case of the salesman, he can use his insecurity to view his methods of selling objectively, and come up with logically sound solutions to improve his selling.
Emotional insecurity (defined) is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving oneself to be vulnerable in some way. A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value, and one or more of their capabilities. Insecure people lack trust in themselves or others, or have fears that a present positive state is temporary, and will "go wrong" in the future, causing them to suffer loss or distress.
If handled the wrong way, your insecurity can cause you to develop shyness, paranoia or even social withdrawal.
To avoid these negative outcomes, I advise that you use the insecurity you are feeling to your own advantage.
Quiet your emotions for a while and focus on changing your perspective. Instead of thinking of yourself as being a victim, give yourself more worth.
In the case of the salesman, he should calm down and compare his methods to those of his workmates. He should analyse them and pay attention to the differences. From that, he can experiment with other methods and be creative. He can try changing the way he greets customers, or he could just change the way he speaks; as in modifying his vocabulary and tone.
No solutions can be seen when one is subdued by insecurity. Learn to quiet those emotions of vulnerability, unworthiness or inferiority. Only then can you be in a position to see reality clearly and be objective: See what is happening and consider the facts, analyse the situation and create your own solutions from that.
The truth is that a person can feel completely secure in any situation. Security or insecurity is subjective, meaning that it exists in the mind; in your beliefs, desires and personal perspective.
Even with a time-bomb attached to your body, giving you a minute to live, you can still feel secure. It all depends on what you're thinking about.
Are you thinking about the bomb exploding and ripping your body to pieces, or are you confident and assured that the bomb-squad member working on the bomb knows what she's doing and will disarm it within the next thirty seconds?
Whether or not you are saved is unknown, and can only be found out by going through the experience; but why go through it feeling insecure?
If you're trying to overcome insecurity in your life, you need to make objective evaluations of your situations, and then choose a subjective reaction to reality for yourself.